When it comes to gay weddings, the traditional paradigm of having the Bride's family pay for the nuptials has changed. According to the Gay Wedding Institute, LGBTQ+ couples are now paying for their own weddings; about 84% of gay men and 73% of lesbians are shouldering the financial burden. But who pays for what at a same-sex wedding?The Knot reports that couples are contributing up to 43% of the wedding costs, with their families dividing the remaining cost. Only 12% of couples pay for the wedding themselves, but this number is steadily increasing.
If your parents are paying most of the wedding bills, you can keep the peace and invite Uncle Mike, even if he has made his views against gay marriage known in the past. In addition, many fathers were unwilling to pay for their son's wedding to another man, following the tradition that fathers only paid for daughters' weddings. To determine who will pay for your wedding, set aside time to talk with BOTH parents to discuss your plans when it comes to the financial aspect of your wedding. You or your parents can explain that even though gay marriage isn't something everyone agrees with, it would mean a lot if you came forward. I don't want you to commit, you can be happier looking the other way, but maybe if the head of your church is against a gay ceremony IN the church, they might be okay with you doing it in the church garden, the library, etc. For many gay and lesbian couples, there is no plan for how to propose marriage, since you may be the first same-sex couple you know to get married.
If parents or in-laws want to include certain traditions, such as a white dress for the bride or a certain champagne for the toast, this can be an opportunity for them to pay for those traditions with the bride and groom's approval. In conclusion, LGBTQ+ couples are now paying for their own weddings; about 84% of gay men and 73% of lesbians are shouldering the financial burden. However, couples and their families can work together to come up with a plan that works best for everyone involved. If parents or in-laws want to include certain traditions, this can be an opportunity for them to pay for those traditions with the bride and groom's approval.
